“One more time we are strangers, but this time with memories.” This
line that I came across of late got me thinking. It has been so long since I
have visited this space. Sometimes it so happens that silence takes over and
words no longer make sense to you. We all go through such phases of hibernation
when you are totally withdrawn into your confined space where no one has access!
It is really something to think about how we make people who used to
mean everything into a thing of times gone by. How we should learn to
unlearn. How we can force ourselves to forget and what can we put in their
place to fill up the void? The emotional journey your soul undergoes after
every farewell teaches you more about yourself than the relationship did..
makes you realise what someone or something meant to you and how much you would
want to go back to relive those memories with them around you, a piece of home
you have never known before they came along!
Life has always taught me that when our very existence revolves
around someone, it just does not stop even though what is left in their place
is only the thought of someone who existed, who just left and never looked
back! The person who knew your every day struggles …things which made you break down… and
what made you smile… the person who saw the world and the people in it through
your eyes and who knew how to bring you back to life and make you fall in love
with it all over again… that person is no longer there. Happened to read this
recently that one of the hardest things to do in life is to grieve the loss of
someone who is still alive. True that ‘'there are memories that time does not
erase... Forever does not make loss forgettable, only bearable!’'
Farewells of all kinds always carries within their souls so much
heartaches..! Family.. friends.. partners.. irrespective of who left… the void
remains and you never really stop knowing them in that way like how they once
were. We all find ourselves standing in those unknown fields so lost that we
cannot find our way back. Those memories that are revolving around the places
you went ..the things said unsaid..the songs you listened ..the dreams shared..
remain! True that “It is not really letting go off the past that is the
problem. It is coming into terms with letting go off a future that will never
be.”
Quite often you are left knowing a lot more about love and what it
can do, and the pain the void in your heart, or emptiness in the opposite chair
can bring to you. We never really get to know whether the void will be filled
by the person who made it.. or will someone else can match up to that and help
you heal?! I have always been of the belief that you
either love someone, in someway which is uniquely yours forever, or you never
really have loved.
These amazing tracks soulfully depict these emotions of different
kinds! ‘Laal Ishq’ from RamLeela, ‘Judaai’ from Badlapur and ‘Oh Rangrez’ from
Bhaag Milkha Bhaag are just amazingly awesome compositions that make you
experience a wide sea of emotions each time you listen to them. The sinking
into an unknown space act, which only music can do that to you!
We all start as strangers. It’s incredible how with time, we realise
that the storms within you calm down eventually, but we see the stars and the
skies and dreams differently now and we can’t really choose whose farewell does
that to us! Like Coelho says, “Because we managed to keep our heart open
despite the pain… because the person who left did not take the sun with them or
leave darkness in their place. They simply left!” Yes, we all start as
strangers, but with every farewell comes a hidden hope and we become strangers
of some sort again, but this time with memories!
“In your light I learn how
to love” Rumi
