“Home is not where you are from,
It is where you belong..
Some of us travel the world to find it..
Others, find it in a person!!!”
Home is indeed where all our stories begin! For me ‘home’ is the nicest word that has ever been.. a place where all the magic resides! Life surprises you quite often. When we are least expecting it or prepared for it, it takes you by surprise! Normal is by all means amazingly precious! But quite often, we are looking for things we don’t have in our lives that we don’t stop by to cherish that what has always been there.. unexplored! That taken for granted feeling of traveling the whole world and coming back home to rest our head on that old familiar pillow!
Few years back when I went to watch this movie ‘O K Kanmani’ only for the love of ARR and Maniratnam and wee bit of DQ love, never did I imagine that I would actually fall in love not with anyone of them but with this story of an absolutely phenomenal couple played by Prakash Raj and the graceful Leela Samson, which made me believe in the most purest of emotions all over again!
Alzheimer’s is something devastatingly painful and I have known how it feels like to watch your loved ones go through the same… how it feels like to have your memories wiped out of their soul and just watch them helplessly… how it is like trying to create new memories for them… something more beautiful… something more meaningful than what they have experienced… even when you know that tomorrow it will all be erased in a second! I have always loved ‘love’ of such kind.. the unconditional .. the purest and most selfless… unadulterated kind of love. When you just want to exist for the other as peace in their chaos…calm in their storm … by just creating one meaningful moment at a time!
‘Malargal ketten’ is an extremely soulful track that amazingly captures the precious bond between the elderly couple and how they are in each other and how they are selflessly for each other. It has always fascinated me.. that yearning to grow old with a person.. that feeling of finding yourself all over again in a person…that feeling of being at home with a person! People who come into our lives for a reason.. people who change your very course of being by simply being there.. people who bring you back to life from those lifeless dark corners of agony and hurt…people who make you want to live all over again… creating meaningful memories… people who love your rough edges and the soft parts that bleed...people who bring you back home with them from the unfamiliar terrains where you were lost! Yes am talking about those once in a lifetime kind of people who come to our lives to remind us about our magic which we had forgotten…. to show us true love.. and to stand up for us through ways no one has ever!
Love indeed is not ‘if’ or ‘because’! Love is ‘anyway’ and ‘even though’ and ‘inspite of’ ! Can’t agree more! Groundless hope like unconditional love is indeed still the only thing that is worth having!
"You don’t measure love in time. You measure love in transformation. Sometimes the longest connections yield very little growth, while the briefest of encounters change everything. The heart doesn’t wear a watch - it’s timeless. It doesn’t care how long you know someone. It doesn’t care if you had a 40 year anniversary if there is no juice in the connection. What the heart cares about is resonance. Resonance that opens it, resonance that enlivens it, resonance that calls it home. And when it finds it, the transformation begins.."
PS: For the one who feels like home .. who taught me to trust the magic of beginnings! Yes! We are in this together !