Monday, November 30, 2015

The truth about forever!!!!!

I have always pondered about the intensity and the reality of the word ‘forever’. Each
time…with each person.. in all kinds of relationships.. the meaning of forever kept changing. Remember reading these lines in the book ‘The truth about forever” and I owe the title of this post to that book and that author who penned something so beautifully. “ Forever was so many different things. It was always changing. It was what everything was really about. It was twenty minutes or one hundred years or just this instant or any instant I wished would last and last.”

If you ask me, it’s all in the way we perceive things. Our forever might end in an hour.. in a day .. in a month or few years from now and its not just about happily ever afters. The fact is we don’t know for sure, so make every second count. Forever by all means for me is what is happening right now!

This post has been long over due. Sometimes it’s like that. You run of words. You get drained out of everything you once believed u had. It’s in between all the chaos that I happened to watch this amazingly thought provoking movie ‘Thamasha’ and it totally changed the very way I look at certain things.

Quite often it so happens that we exist being someone we are not from within. Just for the sake of the world and the people in it. I remember reading this somewhere- “ the statement ‘what will other people think?’ has killed more dreams than anything else in this world.” Can’t be truer! I have always felt the best days in life are those where you cannot remember the date space or time but the ones where you can experience what you felt when it happened. That feeling of happiness, contentment you hadn’t felt in a while. And above all the love...pure…. unconditional love! You remember feeling all this love. This all-consuming adoration you had once.

We all go back to such spaces a lot, going back in space and time. We see moments, flashing and fleeting, and faces of people we have once loved, now love and will always love. The movie reminded me of the best 48 days I have had till date. . 48 days of sunshine! 48 days which changed my very existence. 48 days of feeling alive. 48 blissful days of 'forever'! There are no photos, videos or digitized tokens from those days.  You can’t really go back to it with a simple glance of a photo or link to a video, which you wish you were a part of. They are priceless memories that weren’t published or clicked on. Recently I read this article, which talked about people missing out on living each moment because they are so busy documenting it. ‘That 500 million times people stopped having an experience to document one. That 500 million times throughout the day that we took ourselves out of the moment and refused to live in it.  Those 500 million pictures of experiences we’re not really having. That’s why those moments we’re not recalling through a photograph or scrolling past on Facebook are the ones we remember the best.’ Can’t agree more!

True that the best memories we hold are the ones that will stay with us for the rest of our lives and relieve us in our darkest moments are not ones we can recall through a photograph or relive through a video. Sometimes it so happens that some people you encounter even for a brief while influence you so much and change your life for good. They make you realize and remember who you truly were before this world told you who you should be!

These two songs from the movie made such a deep impact on me which cant be pit in words. ‘Agar Tum Saath Ho’ and ‘Tu Koi Aur He ‘ are two brilliantly composed soulful tracks, which will make you, ponder, make you wonder, and give you that much needed reality check. The lesson I carried back home from the cinema was that whether its few hours.. few days or few weeks.. its not always the time.. but the connect.. the unsaid unexpressed words and emotions that sometimes give you a purpose of being and a whole new meaning to your very existence. And I believe we all need to be that other person to someone else…a living….breathing....screaming invitation to believe in better things!!!!!!

“Some things don't last forever, but some things do. Like a good song, or a good book, or a good memory you can take out and unfold in your darkest times, pressing down on the corners and peering in close, hoping you still recognize the person you see there.”
― Sarah Dessen


R Niranjan Das said...

Nothing is 'Forever'. We connect and disconnect with people, things and memories. Sometimes, we disconnect to connect better.
Interesting read, food for thought.

Sangeetha Janachandran said...

@Raj. Thanks for dropping in :) Loved the movie.. made me ponder!

Arundhati Raaj said...

Agar tum saath ho.... <3

Sangeetha Janachandran said...